Shh, listen closely. We have woven tales of dread around the simple word "No" from our beloved Horses. From thinking it means they despise us to deeming it disrespectful, we have been conditioned to view it in a negative light.
To grant our Horses more independence, we must first redefine our relationship with the word "No".
When your Horse declines, follow these steps:
1. Note the physical sensation that arises. A tightening in your gut? A quickening of your pulse?
2. Explore the narrative linked to this sensation. Did your stomach clench because you believe your Horse holds animosity towards you? Did your pulse race because you interpret it as disrespect, sparking a hint of anger? Simply observe without judgment.
3. Take a moment to breathe slowly. Recognize the feeling and let it pass.
4. Begin to reshape your belief system. A "No" from your Horse signifies trust in engaging in dialogue. It signifies their autonomy to make decisions. It opens up new avenues for mutual understanding. Embrace this shift.
And keep in mind...
A "No" may not mean rejection forever. It may mean "not now," "uncertainty about your approach," "confusion about the request," or a preference for something else at the moment.
By honouring the "No," you demonstrate attunement to your Horse. You deepen your bond and engage in meaningful conversations.
If you find this challenging, consider scheduling a Calm Minds Open Heart Session to explore your emotions and how to manage them - Emotionality in Horse Owners and How to Regulate It.
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